Sounds like a weird title for a blog in January, doesn’t it? I agree! But read on, and it will make sense.
The other day I was sitting with some friends at Panera Bread having a late breakfast. We meet every month to catch up on each other’s lives. We have been doing this for several years now and we almost always have a laugh or two.
This day seemed to focus on our futures. We are all seniors and looking at some of the necessary changes we are going through. Mostly we talk about the what Ifs and the choices we are thinking about making. The buzz word here is “thinking.” Somewhere during our conversation, the above saying was uttered: “There’s only so many shopping days before Christmas.”
Wow, what a revelation! We all know what it means. There are only so many shopping days to get all of our gifts bought before December 25th. We don’t get any do-overs or extra days. But how many of us know how many days we have on this planet to complete our “to do” list or “bucket list”? Not many I would assume. Even if you have a debilitating illness and have been given a finite time frame before the journey ends, it’s not exact. None of us really know.
So here is the point: Let’s get going now and stop talking about what we would like to do or what we are going to do. “Time waits for no one.” That’s another important reminder of how life works here on planet earth.
Of course, we need to have the support and resources to make things happen. Very few of us have infinite ability to treat ourselves to exactly what we want. But even if we cannot have our ultimate fantasies, we can do something close and allow ourselves to have a taste of what we know we would like to experience before our lives draw to a close or our assets dwindle even further. If we can’t drive off in a silver Corvette, maybe a red Miata will do. If we can’t go on a trip around the world, maybe a weekend outing would be fun. If we can’t retire, maybe we can find a few days to take off or cut down on the time we spend at the office. Instead of focusing on what we can’t have or do, turn it around to what is possible. Having those precious days to cross a few items off the “to do” list could equal enormous happiness and satisfaction.
But here is the catch. If we don’t start doing the “to do” list or “bucket list” Christmas will surely come and where will the presents be? Will we feel guilty about not being pro-active and acting in a timely manner? Or will we realize we have just wasted the time that we cannot recapture? Either way, our emotion will be disappointing.
So after our monthly get-together and meaningful conversation, I started my action plan. It’s scheduled on my calendar just like any other appointments. How about yours? How will you make sure to let yourself have the things you have treasured in your heart?