It’s Valentine’s Day. It’s a reminder to say “I love you” and tell that someone special how we feel about them.
Every year we try to come up with yet another idea to say these three little words to that special person. Be it a spouse, a friend or a family member, Saying “I Love you” is not only reserved for couples. We may think we need to buy candy, flowers, dinners or gifts to convey our feelings, but do we? How did it become a profitable day for vendors? How did we commercialize our feelings and assign them to a shopping spree to come up with yet another creative gift to show our love on this day each year?
According to Wikipedia, Valentine’s Day was “first associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished. In 18th-century England, it evolved into an occasion in which lovers expressed their love for each other by presenting flowers, offering confectionery and sending greeting cards (known as ‘valentines’). Valentine’s Day symbols that are used today include the heart-shaped outline, doves, and the figure of the winged Cupid.”
So my question is this: Why do we need one day to remind us to say I love you?
Take for example the experience of Tyesha and James. One April night they had to head for shelter in the hallway of their house, with a tornado bearing down on their home. Within sixty seconds, the funnel sucked the house up and pitched it back down again, towards the forest. James was hurled outside to the edge of the woods. Tyesha was unconscious and pinned under the house rubble, her leg crushed.
James called out for her, but she did not hear him. He kept saying her name, terrified that he was alone and that she had been killed. Finally, she woke up, heard him, and yelled back. It was the most wonderful sound he had ever heard. James rushed to her and pulled her out of the rubble. All he could think of was how much he loved her and what would have happened if she had perished. He thought of the times he had forgotten to say “I love you” and when he had said it last.
Clearly, tornadoes are not an everyday occurrence, but should we need a tornado or some other threat to say I love you? Just waking up each morning is good enough reason to express feelings of love to those that are important in our life.
In life, we do not get a “do over.” Our minutes are not transferable and the time that we do have is precious. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if every day we said “I love you” to people who are dear to our hearts? There are 1,440 minutes in each day. Every day we have comes just once. Take advantage of the minutes, that day, that week and tell the people you love what they mean to you.
It is not about how creative you can get, or about how much money you can spend. The love you feel for someone is more than what can be seen. It’s what is felt. It’s that constant feeling in your heart that makes you care for, worry about and want to do for the other person. It’s sometimes putting their happiness above your own and wanting to be with them every day.
Why not treat them like every day is Valentines Day?